Slow Down For Better Sex

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Slow Down!

That’s some of the best sex advice we can give you. But of course – it is simple but not always easy.

Slowing down in the erotic realm is an essential step to have better sex and enjoy your authentic sexuality.

Our sex culture is FAST – fast hookups, fast arousal, fast intercourse, fast orgasms. We all rush through life in general, and sadly this includes rushing through sex.

Rushing into sex, rushing through sex, refusing to slow down and enjoy the sexual encounter: these are all outcomes of our culture of sexual scarcity, shame and fear. Sometimes we rush through sex as if we are committing a crime and need to flee as soon as possible. Sometimes we rush as if we are children masturbating in secret, afraid of getting caught. Sometimes we rush so we don’t have to feel all of our feelings. Sometimes we rush just to get it over with, cause the sex isn’t that great anyway.

Sigh.
We can do better.

In this episode, we talk about all the different levels of slowing down sex – from seducing your partner to how you touch their entire body – and how slowing down creates the opportunity to not only feel way more pleasure, but also clear some of the anxiety and shame that burdens you.


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Pleasure Practices

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Welcome

  • Why Pleasure Practices?
  • How To Use This Library

Solo Pleasure Practices

  • Body Awareness: Relaxed Body Scan (15 mins)9
  • Arousal Awareness: Aroused Body Scan (10+ mins)
  • Body Awareness & Self Regulation: Self Holds (5 mins)
  • Body Awareness: Dance to Feel (3 mins +)3
  • Pelvic Floor Exercises for Awareness, Strength & Tone
  • Touch Skills: Object Exploration (5 mins)

Erotic Breath Work

  • Erotic Breath Work: Introduction
  • Erotic Breath Work: Relaxing Breath (5-20 mins)
  • Erotic Breath Work: Charging Breath
  • Erotic Breath Work: The Big Draw

Partnered Pleasure Practices

  • Taking Turns Giving & Receiving Pleasure: The "Three Minute Game" (10-20 mins)
  • Giving & Receiving Touch: Foot Massage 5 Minute Follow Along (10-15 mins)
  • Giving & Receiving Erotic Attention : Guided Practice (30 mins)
  • Experience: Boundaries Consent & Safewords (Guided Interactive Practice, 30 mins)2
  • Communicating After Erotic Explorations

Interactive Tools & Surveys

  • Erotic Distractions Inventory
  • Tell Me What You Want...1
  • Relaxed Body Scan Awareness Inventory
  • Aroused Body Scan Awareness Inventory1

Pleasure Principles

  • Slow Down For Better Sex
  • Recalibrate Towards Pleasure
  • Sixty Second Pleasure Points
  • Savoring : A Foundational Pleasure Practice (1 minute!)1
  • Take Turns Giving And Receiving