Conversation Starters

  • Where did you learn about sex when you were a kid?
  • What were you taught about masturbation as a child?
  • Who was one of your first celebrity crushes? What attracted you to them?
  • Who was one of your first celebrity erotic role models, someone you wanted to be like?
  • What do you want to experience more of in your body?
  • What sex acts do you want more of?
  • How do you want to feel during sex?
  • How do you want to feel about your sex life?
  • What emotional experience do you crave more of during sex?
  • Are there spiritual values or beliefs you want to express through your sexuality?
  • What kind of erotic relationship do you want to have?
  • What attitudes and values do you want to define your erotic life together?
  • How do you want to be treated by your lover?
  • How do you want to express your love for your partner?
  • What is one of your favorite erotic memories about us?
  • Describe how a great orgasm feels to you using only weather metaphors (or food metaphors, or colors, or ...)
  • What is one pleasure you want to experience more of in the next three months? 
  • What is your favorite sex scene in a movie?
  • What fictional character do you find most sexy and why?