Erotic communication includes:

• learning to listen to your own body and pay attention to what you desire and long for

• feeling the difference between a "yes" and a "no"

• getting clear about your own sexual interests and desires

• clearing up shame and anxiety

• being able to openly and honestly talk about sex with your partner

• being able to listen to your partner without judgement

• joyfully negotiating what you and your partner want to explore

• giving useful feedback to make sex even better

• using body language and other non-verbal communication 
  techniques

• paying exquisite attention to your lover’s unspoken cues so you can anticipate 
  their needs

As you can see, there is a lot more to erotic communication than saying “harder!” or “to the left!”

Getting the conversation started is just that: getting started. You have many sexual adventures ahead. For now, focus some attention on optimizing how you talk to one another about sex and you’ll reap the benefits your whole life long.