Questions To Discern Between Fantasies and Desires

• When you think about your fantasy, what are you most excited about? Pick at least three details that really excite you: physical, emotional or energetic. 

• What is the version of the fantasy that you may never even say out loud - dig deep and discover the wildest, most impossible version of at least one of your fantasies. 

• How does this fit in with your ideas of your highest self?

• If your fantasy conflicts with your personal values, how so?

• What parts need to stay as fantasy, and what parts are actual Desires?

• What is to be gained by this Fantasy becoming a Desire? What might be lost? What do you really want?

• What are you afraid of?

• What is stopping you from realizing your Desires, if anything?

• What desires are important enough to you to take action on? 

Considering the answers the questions above, ask yourself the most important question of all: 

What do you want to experience more of in your erotic life?