Many people have asked about the best way to check in and communicate after an erotic exploration or partnered pleasure practice. Here's a few suggested to get you started in post-coital communication. 

Allow at least an hour after your date ends before talking about it. You can even wait until the next day. Then set aside a few minutes to have a conversation about what 

happened. A drive or a walk together can help carve out some conversational time. 

• What was your favorite part of the experience?

• Did you feel like your wish list was paid attention to? 

• Is there anything you could have been more specific about in making your requests?

• Were your lover's requests clear enough for you?

• Were you able to tell what your lover enjoyed the most?

• What kind of communication would have been useful? 

• What was your experience of Giving? 

• What did you enjoy the most? 

• What would make it even better next time?